Dating Den Episode 223 – Bachelor Recap: With Chris Gillis — I Can't Read This Guy at All. What to Do and What to Say When He Might Be the One
On this week’s Bachelor recap, Marni and Chris discuss why Matt James is finally making some decisions and releasing girls from the show. Did the producers prompt him, or have the girls finally had it with his indecision? Marni extracts the best real-life dating nuggets from this manufactured environment and shares them with us.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Watch out for breadcrumbs
- Ask for what you are looking for
- Early signs of emotional unavailability
- Don’t take dating personally
- The right guy will appreciate your vulnerability
Breadcrumbs Create Chaos [1:44]
Did the producers give Matt a strong talking to or were the women so tired of his breadcrumbs they forced his hand? He went from constantly kicking the can down the road to making some clear choices and kicked some ladies out. Chris thinks the producers prodded him to make choices.
Marni applauds Kit, Abby, and Bri for being vulnerable and practicing good dating skills. Both girls shared something major from their lives and instead of being interested and sharing something from his own life, Matt replies with “thanks for sharing”. Bleh.
Matt further proves himself to just be a f*c#boy by moving his hand up the girls’ legs as he pseudo-listens to them being vulnerable.
All Matt shows is a hollow shell of a personality.
Bri Quits Her Job & a Series of Bad Dates [14:40]
Did Bri quit her job to become an Instagram influencer or to be closer to Matt? Chris says when a girl says something like that it is best not to respond. Maybe, she was taking the temperature of his interest in her? But, ladies, have a conversation with a guy before you move your home or quit your job for him.
Perfect is not sexy.
Marni points out the dates that appeared to be great for both Matt and his date but then he lets her go from the show. It’s easy for women to get confused with this type of behavior. And, then he gives a rose to an emotionally unavailable girl who didn’t enjoy a date at all. Ladies, if you experience this in real life, don’t take it personally. You don’t really want to date a Matt James type anyway.
Don’t Take Dating Personally [27:40]
Piper put herself out there and shared her true feelings with Matt. He said ‘thanks for sharing’ which gave her a bit of validation but then paid little to no attention to her after. Piper says she felt crushed by his actions and went into victim mode.
Marni says if something like this happens to you, it is okay to be crushed for a moment but then step back and realize you are lovable and worthy. You and that guy just weren’t a match. Keep putting your heart out there. Because the right guy will appreciate it.
If you are dating someone whose actions don’t match their words, move on.
