Dating Den Episode 178 – With Anita: How to Create an Irresistible Dating Profile That High-Quality Men Can't Resist
Marni welcomes longtime listener Anita into the Den to talk about how to update her online profile to get more high-quality dates. Anita has been single for 5-and-a-half years and is positive she is ready to meet her soul mate. Yet, Marni intuits a block that could be keeping her from attracting the right type of guy.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- How-to rewrite an online dating profile to get quality dates
- Why a telling-type profile does not work
- Why it is important to acknowledge possible emotional blocks
- What personal development work can and can not do
Looking for Love [1:56]
Anita has been studying love, dating, and relationships for over 4-years. She is excited and ready to find her soulmate then get engaged. She believes she can manifest the right man for her, but she fears being ghosted again.
She tells Marni that over a year ago, she was going out on 2-3 dates a week. But, she has a history of being ghosted by men she met online and agreed to meet in person. She is looking to Marni for guidance on how to finally find her quality guy.
Tips for Writing Your Online Dating Profile [10:08]
Marni dissects Anita’s current online dating profile that a previous dating coach helped her to write. Marni points out that while it has a decent structure it may make men wonder if they are good enough. If they question themselves they may not reach out. The profile is more of a push-away, not a draw-me-in type of profile.
Always choose quality over quantity when it comes to dating.
Anita says she wants her profile to reflect that she is looking for someone who has integrity and follows through. Marni reminds her that her profile has to reflect her values and her brand. The message she sends needs to be solid.
Positivity Doesn’t Trump Feelings [26:56]
Anita seems to cover up her disappointment with positivity instead of feeling her feelings. She wants to focus on the good. Marni recognizes a nugget of emotional unavailability.
Anita needs to acknowledge her disappointment, fear, and frustration. She shares a story from her past where she felt abandoned by a family member. It created an emotional suit of armor and explains why she is stuck right now.
Anita’s homework is:
- To rewrite her online profile based on Marni’s tips
- Update her photos to new professional photos
- Giver her inner teenager some love and acknowledgment
- Assess what she wants to manifest and adjust
