Life Check Yourself 508 – Prepare for Lasting Love: The New Rules of Connection
This week’s guest is the extraordinary Larry Michel—founder of the Institute of Genetic Energetics, relationship innovator, coach, and author of Lasting: 11 Illuminations and Essential Questions for a Co-Creative, Evolutionary Partnership. Known as the “Love Shepherd,” Larry has spent over three decades reshaping the way people find and build love. His work dives deep into the science of human connection, compatibility, and co-creation.
🔥 This Episode Will Help You:
- Stop treating love like a transaction and start showing up with truth.
- Shift from judgment to curiosity to unlock deeper relationships.
- Understand why “preparing” for love is more powerful than repairing it.
1. Love Is Not a Transaction—Stop Playing the Algorithm ⏰ [02:42]
“Anytime we make ourselves a commodity, it’s hurting us.”
Explanation:
When love becomes gamified by apps and algorithms, people lose the depth of authentic connection. Reducing ourselves to filters, swipes, and profiles undermines intimacy and reinforces insecurity. Instead, when we approach dating and connection as a human process—not a tech transaction—we reclaim our power to be seen and valued.
2. Chemistry Isn’t the Goal—Clarity Is ⏰ [10:31]
“Chemistry plays a huge role… when it’s on, you’re all doped up on brain chemicals.”
Explanation:
Falling for someone based on “chemistry” alone often leads to distorted decision-making. When your body is flooded with feel-good hormones, it’s easy to miss red flags. By learning how to see clearly through the chemical fog, you can create meaningful, conscious connections rather than ones based purely on dopamine and fantasy.
3. Don’t Repair—Prepare for Real Love ⏰ [25:45]
“85% of professionals are focused on repairing what’s broken… but we need to prepare more than repair.”
Explanation:
Healing shouldn’t begin only after heartbreak. Proactively asking the right questions, cultivating emotional intimacy, and clarifying shared values before problems arise builds resilience. True connection comes from intentional preparation, not reactive fixing.
